You’ve suffered a loss now what? Looking for answers about your lost loved one? Here are 5 things to consider before you book a reading with a medium.
From the perspective of a grief counselor Claire Bidwell Smith & Felicia Grant Certified Medium
“I admit it: Seeing a psychic medium was something I never imagined I’d recommend doing one day. As a grief counselor with a master’s degree in clinical psychology and background in hospice, I’d always viewed mediums as solely for the desperate and confused.”
That changed in the spring of 2010. Making good on a promise I’d whispered to a dying friend in my early twenties, I booked an appointment with famed psychic medium John Edward. What I experienced during that session became the beginning of the journey I outline in After This: When Life is Over Where Do We Go, a book about my search to find ways to remain connected with our lost loved ones.
By now I’ve met at least a dozen psychic mediums and now believe a good session with a medium can actually benefit the grief process.”
Before you book in, consider these five tips:
1: Review your current state of grief
Are you still deep in it? Wishing there were still a way to bring your loved one back? Depressed or angry? Overly tearful or sad? Be honest with yourself. If you answered yes to any, seek individual or group counseling in order to find more solid ground before seeing a medium.
According to both the mediums I’ve spoken to and my additional research, time isn’t a serious factor in determining whether a deceased individual will come through during a session. But having that session before you’ve had time to process the loss can lead to undue expectations.
2. Choose the right psychic medium
They run the gamut, from celebrity to boardwalk scam-artist. Ask friends and family for recommendations (you’d be surprised by how many people in your life have one). If you’re curious about a famous medium, read their website. Even if you can’t snag a session, they’ll probably provide a list of more accessible options.
Some mediums host what is commonly called “spirit circles,” in which they work with a large room of participants and give readings at random. You aren’t guaranteed one but it’s a good way to see how the whole thing works. It also might take some pressure off any expectations you’re holding.
A private session guarantees you a reading and protects your privacy. Think about what feels right before deciding. I’ve personally found some of the group readings quite cathartic; it can be comforting to know you aren’t alone in your desire to connect with a lost loved one.
Telephone readings can be totally legit. It doesn’t seem to affect the medium’s process, and can sometimes leave you feeling more secure in the reading knowing that the medium couldn’t read your physical cues.
3. Spend time thinking about your loved one before the session
Talk to them in your head, tell them you’re going to see a medium, and ask them to come through. Have the medium describe the process beforehand. During the reading try to remain open and relaxed state. In my initial visits I was so hesitant to reveal any details or even acknowledge that what they were telling me was true; I worried it would leave me wondering if the experience was valid.
Eventually, I realized most mediums need some communication from you during a session. Trust me, most of them too busy to sit around Googling you beforehand.
4. Have an open mind and low expectations
Some people have a great first experience and never return, feeling they heard everything they wanted to. If your initial session isn’t fulfilling, I suggest trying it at least one more time with a different medium.
Ask if you can record the session (I’ve done this many times through an app on my phone) or take notes. So much information comes through that often it’s hard to remember later. And some of it may not resonate at the time but might make sense later.
Important: Not all mediums out there are great. Usually this simply results in a reading that doesn’t resonate. Feel free to voice your misgivings during the session. Tell them if something they’re saying doesn’t sound right. And if you get a bad reading, don’t let it discourage you from trying again with someone else.
Some of the best readings I have with clients is when they are open and ready to receive healing from the reading. Most often I will say they “have not expectations” and it seems to help with the reading and healing process.
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Felicia Grant is a Certified Medium and Holy Fire® Reiki Master in Wilmington, North Carolina.